It has been awhile since my last post. I hope you understand. But this has not stopped my reading and researching into healing my insincerities and anxieties.
Numerous life coaches have said you have to believe in yourself and love yourself. To do this they recommend saying “I’m beautiful.”, “I am loved.” “I love.” “I’m okay.” or something very affirming to yourself everyday.
I was dubious. “I am beautiful?” But we are miracles. We are alive and energy pulses through our bodies. All of us are beautiful. “I love?” I decided yes, I love. I love my children and family. I love my pets and plants. I love nature. I love chocolate, cookies and ice cream. So yes, I love. Then, “I am loved.” That is a tough statement. We all feel unloved. But when we exam our life yes we are loved. My children and family love me. My pets love me. My plants love me. I take care of them, nurture them and love them. I have neighbors and friends who care and yes that is love. So I decided “loved” in this affirmation is not necessarily referring to a romantic relationship but a being loved as a universal statement.
I have tried this exercise with very good results. I started out whispering to myself “I am beautiful. I am loved. I love.” to myself in the morning right after waking up and before getting out of bed. And then in the night when I laid down to go to sleep. I started to feel better.
Some coaches said to say these affirmations while looking in the mirror. So I decided to whisper this mantras every time I was in the bathroom. The bathroom can be a very private place and to make these declarations to myself I needed to be in a private place. The affirmations still didn’t feel right but over time I felt more hopeful.
I started to feel more and more optimistic about myself. And even, yes loving myself. I started smile at my reflection in the mirror. Then, I took a big step. I wrote these affirmations in my journal, everyday. This seems to validate these beliefs because I could see them in writing. I was declaring them to the world even though my journals are only read by me. I still haven’t uttered “I am beautiful. I am loved. I love. I’m okay.” out loud but that is my next step.
I have been doing this for a couple of months. I had bad days along with good days. But more good days. What harm am I doing repeating these affirmations everyday? No harm and maybe it will help. I just do it and kept up with it. It is simple. I’m glad I did. I do feel much better and hopeful for a better understanding of life and love.
Try it and see how you feel. I hope you feel love grow toward your and yourself. You have much love to give and receive.
Lots of Love,
Dee