My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportions to my expectations. Michael J. Fox
We have many expectations in our life. There are expectations others have projected to us. There are expectations we put on ourselves, to be something we are not. These expectations usually bring us unhappiness. We must determine who we are and what we truly want. Let’s just enjoy and accept who we really are and try not to live up to false expectations.
Enjoy your day,
Dee
It has been awhile since my last post. I hope you understand. But this has not stopped my reading and researching into healing my insincerities and anxieties.
Numerous life coaches have said you have to believe in yourself and love yourself. To do this they recommend saying “I’m beautiful.”, “I am loved.” “I love.” “I’m okay.” or something very affirming to yourself everyday.
I was dubious. “I am beautiful?” But we are miracles. We are alive and energy pulses through our bodies. All of us are beautiful. “I love?” I decided yes, I love. I love my children and family. I love my pets and plants. I love nature. I love chocolate, cookies and ice cream. So yes, I love. Then, “I am loved.” That is a tough statement. We all feel unloved. But when we exam our life yes we are loved. My children and family love me. My pets love me. My plants love me. I take care of them, nurture them and love them. I have neighbors and friends who care and yes that is love. So I decided “loved” in this affirmation is not necessarily referring to a romantic relationship but a being loved as a universal statement.
I have tried this exercise with very good results. I started out whispering to myself “I am beautiful. I am loved. I love.” to myself in the morning right after waking up and before getting out of bed. And then in the night when I laid down to go to sleep. I started to feel better.
Some coaches said to say these affirmations while looking in the mirror. So I decided to whisper this mantras every time I was in the bathroom. The bathroom can be a very private place and to make these declarations to myself I needed to be in a private place. The affirmations still didn’t feel right but over time I felt more hopeful.
I started to feel more and more optimistic about myself. And even, yes loving myself. I started smile at my reflection in the mirror. Then, I took a big step. I wrote these affirmations in my journal, everyday. This seems to validate these beliefs because I could see them in writing. I was declaring them to the world even though my journals are only read by me. I still haven’t uttered “I am beautiful. I am loved. I love. I’m okay.” out loud but that is my next step.
I have been doing this for a couple of months. I had bad days along with good days. But more good days. What harm am I doing repeating these affirmations everyday? No harm and maybe it will help. I just do it and kept up with it. It is simple. I’m glad I did. I do feel much better and hopeful for a better understanding of life and love.
Try it and see how you feel. I hope you feel love grow toward your and yourself. You have much love to give and receive.
Lots of Love,
Dee
LOVE yourself! We have all heard that numerous times. But let’s think about it, it makes sense. We have heard much advice on how to do this and I’m not a doctor or licensed medical professional, but I have gathered some of their advice. And here are some of my thoughts. The best way to start loving yourself is simple:
I’m going to try to do these things everyday, hope you join me. It can’t hurt, right! I truly believe loving yourself helps you find True Soulmate Love.
Lots of Love,
Dee
What is your definition of LOVE? The word gurus at Webster’s New World Dictionary says the meaning of LOVE is:
n. 1 strong affection or liking for someone or something 2 a passionate affection of one person for another 3 the object of such affection; a sweetheart or lover 4 Tennis a score of zero.
I’m a romantic and a total believer in true SOULMATE LOVE.
For me, SOULMATE LOVE is feelings, emotions and energy. LOVE is a surge of energy pulsing through my veins warming my heart. A tingling sensation, a total attraction. The elated feeling of happiness and joy. Sharing fun and happiness. Smiling when reading a text or thinking of my LOVE. Sharing and feeling each other’s joys, secrets, sorrows, and pain. Reading my mate’s mind. A oneness, two people growing together as one but still independent to grow and flourish as individuals. Having a honest and respectful relationship. Honoring each other’s boundaries. Being each other’s cheerleaders and confidants.
What about you? Think about it…What is your definition of LOVE?
Love,
Dee
Everyone is exploring and searching for LOVE. Lucky are the ones that find a loving, honest and respectful relationship. Their door to Love is wide open. But unfortunately, for most of us throughout this Love search, we have very bad experiences. These experiences slammed our door shut on Love. Some of us have internalized bad beliefs about ourselves through hurtful and harmful comments. Our door has been shut and locked. Maybe we can unlock our Love door and start opening it up inch by inch. We can open it up a crack then slowly let it swing on its hinges until our doors are wide open for LOVE. We can do this by listening to Love experts with a wealth of information. We can read about real love stories to build and maintain faith in love. Soulmate love and true love are very real. The goal of this blog is to help everyone find LOVE.
So every week please check in for our new Love message.
Love,
Dee
Here we are exploring LOVE. All of the aspects of Love. Finding Love to keep Love alive in a relationship. We will share Love expert’s advise. True Love stories. And snippets of my Love stories, the ones I’m creating, for your review and comments.
