Deserving Love

We all deserve to be loved. Nobody is perfect. Sometimes we put high expectations on ourselves, at least, I do. Who would love my muffin top midriff and my freckles on my nose? Who would love my habit of making a To Do list everyday? Who would love me because I tend to snort when I laugh?

I let these thoughts churn though my head, turning them into major shortcomings when thinking about having a romantic relationship. I create them into fatal flaws, but they are not. And, I am sabotaging myself. Recently, I have realized that one of my biggest hurtle in finding love is to realize I can be loved. I started saying this to myself everyday “I am lovable.” It has helped.

Trust you can be loved. You are lovable, just the way you are.

Dee

Changing a Bad Day

Some days are great, some days are good and some days are bad. A bad day can happen quickly when you are searching on dating apps or dating. The key is to take that bad day and dissolve it into a good day.

I am inspired to have more great and good days than bad days, now. As soon as the day starts going sour, I stop in my tracks and start changing my focus to something I am grateful about or distracting myself with a happy thought. Then, try to keep this happy feeling.  I just remember, that person is not for me. My soulmate is out there waiting. I hope you try this and stay optimistic and happy.

Keep searching and stay happy,

Dee

Smiling

A smile is a friendly, relaxed, and happy signal. A genuine smile signals a positive feeling out to another and can trigger a smile in return. Researcher’s say the muscles you use when you smile trigger’s the brain to produce endorphins, which are the chemicals that relieves pain and stress. Also, I have read that a smile can help with our immune system function effectively.

A genuine, feel good, smile is a small thing that you can do to make others feel good. So let’s smile more.

Sending a smile to you,

Dee

5 Minute Visualization

I was inspired by reading “Adventures for your Soul” by Shannon Kaiser. She says fear can block you from what you want and visualization will overcome this fear. Shannon suggests to take five minutes a day and paint a mental picture of your future life. She says during this visualization imagine every aspect of your life and don’t hold back. Below describes the process in her own words,

“I had a desire to be a travel writer. I visualized myself in other countries, traveling and sharing my my journey with others. I pictured myself sitting on the warm sand looking out into the crystal blue Caribbean Sea. The salty air stung my nose. I imagined the warm sun touching my skin and in my hand was a journal as I jotted down notes from my experience. I smelled the fresh air and visualized every detail as if it were really happening.”

I think I finally get it. I am going to really feel every aspect of my future life while visualizing. I am going to comment to five minute vivid visualizations everyday.

Thanks,

Dee

New Year Resolutions

Happy New Year! Did you make New Year’s resolutions for 2024? Did you achieve them? Now is the time to reflect on your list. Celebrate if you achieved them but don’t be disappointed if you didn’t. 

I never made new year’s resolutions, I lived life as it came. Then one year, I decided to start. And now, every year, I take time and reflect on my dreams and goals. I write them down and make a commitment to achieve these aspirations. I review my list periodically through out the year. It helps me to stay focused on what is important to me. Sometimes I achieve them, sometimes not. Many times they evolve as the year progresses. 

So many times I wonder what is a resolution, affirmation, manifestation and intention. I did some research and here is what I found out. Resolutions usually start with “I won’t” or “I will”. Affirmations are very positive declarations to strengthen yourself “I am”. An intention is a mental commitment to an action. A manifestation is a declaration to a specific outcome aligned with the universe. Hope this helps and doesn’t confuse you. 

This year “I will find love” will be on the top of my resolution list.

What is your 2025 resolution?

Happy New Year,

Dee

Expectations

My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportions to my expectations. Michael J. Fox

We have many expectations in our life. There are expectations others have projected to us. There are expectations we put on ourselves, to be something we are not. These expectations usually bring us unhappiness. We must determine who we are and what we truly want. Let’s just enjoy and accept who we really are and try not to live up to false expectations. 

Enjoy your day,

Dee

Growing Love

It has been awhile since my last post. I hope you understand. But this has not stopped my reading and researching into healing my insincerities and anxieties. 

Numerous life coaches have said you have to believe in yourself and love yourself. To do this they recommend saying “I’m beautiful.”, “I am loved.” “I love.” “I’m okay.” or something very affirming to yourself everyday.

I was dubious. “I am beautiful?” But we are miracles. We are alive and energy pulses through our bodies. All of us are beautiful. “I love?” I decided yes, I love. I love my children and family. I love my pets and plants. I love nature. I love chocolate, cookies and ice cream. So yes, I love. Then, “I am loved.” That is a tough statement. We all feel unloved. But when we exam our life yes we are loved. My children and family love me. My pets love me. My plants love me. I take care of them, nurture them and love them. I have neighbors and friends who care and yes that is love. So I decided “loved” in this affirmation is not necessarily referring to a romantic relationship but a being loved as a universal statement. 

I have tried this exercise with very good results. I started out whispering to myself “I am beautiful. I am loved. I love.” to myself in the morning right after waking up and before getting out of bed. And then in the night when I laid down to go to sleep. I started to feel better. 

Some coaches said to say these affirmations while looking in the mirror. So I decided to whisper this mantras every time I was in the bathroom. The bathroom can be a very private place and to make these declarations to myself I needed to be in a private place. The affirmations still didn’t feel right but over time I felt more hopeful.

I started to feel more and more optimistic about myself. And even, yes loving myself. I started smile at my reflection in the mirror. Then, I took a big step. I wrote these affirmations in my journal, everyday. This seems to validate these beliefs because I could see them in writing. I was declaring them to the world even though my journals are only read by me. I still haven’t uttered “I am beautiful. I am loved. I love. I’m okay.” out loud but that is my next step.

I have been doing this for a couple of months. I had bad days along with good days. But more good days. What harm am I doing repeating these affirmations everyday? No harm and maybe it will help. I just do it and kept up with it. It is simple. I’m glad I did. I do feel much better and hopeful for a better understanding of life and love.

Try it and see how you feel. I hope you feel love grow toward your and yourself. You have much love to give and receive.

Lots of Love,

Dee

Love Yourself

LOVE yourself! We have all heard that numerous times. But let’s think about it, it makes sense. We have heard much advice on how to do this and I’m not a doctor or licensed medical professional, but I have gathered some of their advice. And here are some of my thoughts. The best way to start loving yourself is simple:

  • Drink plenty of water.
  • Eat healthy. 
  • Get some form of exercise. Even if it’s walking in place for 5 minutes while watching a movie on TV. 
  • Get some sunshine and a breath of fresh air. 
  • Forgive yourself. 
  • Think of at least one thing you are grateful for each day.
  • Smile more.
  • And most importantly hug yourself every night before bed and every morning after waking up. 

I’m going to try to do these things everyday, hope you join me. It can’t hurt, right! I truly believe loving yourself helps you find True Soulmate Love.

Lots of Love,

Dee

Love’s Definition

What is your definition of LOVE? The word gurus at Webster’s New World Dictionary says the meaning of LOVE is: 

n. 1 strong affection or liking for someone or something 2 a passionate affection of one person for another 3 the object of such affection; a sweetheart or lover 4 Tennis a score of zero.

I’m a romantic and a total believer in true SOULMATE LOVE.

For me, SOULMATE LOVE is feelings, emotions and energy. LOVE is a surge of energy pulsing through my veins warming my heart. A tingling sensation, a total attraction. The elated feeling of happiness and joy. Sharing fun and happiness. Smiling when reading a text or thinking of my LOVE. Sharing and feeling each other’s joys, secrets, sorrows, and pain. Reading my mate’s mind. A oneness, two people growing together as one but still independent to grow and flourish as individuals. Having a honest and respectful relationship. Honoring each other’s boundaries. Being each other’s cheerleaders and confidants.

What about you? Think about it…What is your definition of LOVE? 

Love,

Dee

About Doors to Love

Everyone is exploring and searching for LOVE. Lucky are the ones that find a loving, honest and respectful relationship. Their door to Love is wide open. But unfortunately, for most of us throughout this Love search, we have very bad experiences. These experiences slammed our door shut on Love. Some of us have internalized bad beliefs about ourselves through hurtful and harmful comments. Our door has been shut and locked. Maybe we can unlock our Love door and start opening it up inch by inch. We can open it up a crack then slowly let it swing on its hinges until our doors are wide open for LOVE. We can do this by listening to Love experts with a wealth of information. We can read about real love stories to build and maintain faith in love. Soulmate love and true love are very real. The goal of this blog is to help everyone find LOVE.

So every week please check in for our new Love message.

Love,

Dee